There are any number of reasons why someone would employ an escort, and so many of them are miles from the stereotypes we’ve been led to believe are common. Some people are exploring ideas and experiences that may not traditionally jive with heteronormative culture, but want to do so in a manner they control and with the utmost discretion.
Some are working to overcome past experiences of lost consent or lost control, and an escort can be a way to find connection while holding the stop/go powers entirely. People who have achieved some degree of notoriety are often subject to a lifelong scrutiny most of us can never imagine, and may feel trapped by their perceived success. Some are coping with situational issues that may engender sadness or loneliness. Loneliness is a wildly misunderstood and stigmatized emotional response which afflicts nearly everyone at some point in their life.
In my experience, escorts first time -rs worry most about these two things:
These are big and powerful ideas. But they are fears that everyone has, both in paid companionship situations and in their everyday lives. Experience is the only way they are overcome. But information helps a lot.
This is another one where experience is the only thing that truly breeds confidence. But it can be helpful to remember that you are in charge and nothing should happen without your consent.
These are deep and primal worries which can ignite equally primal fight or flight responses, just from thinking seriously about them. Acceptance and rejection are key to our evolutionary survival. Our lizard brains aren’t wired for nuanced understanding, and it can be tough to meaningfully overcome deep fears of losing control, being viewed negatively by someone, or potential rejection.
These questions can help allay some practical worries, and you may find they ease some of your concern about the 2 big questions as well:
What should I expect from a meeting?
What about hygiene and grooming?
What if do or say something that turns you off?
Do I need to send you photos before I request to make a plan?
I am Black / short / Asian / trans / bald / fat / female / whatever.
Is that an issue for you?
What if you just plain don’t like me?What about money, and do I need to send a deposit?
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